We have to make tough decisions in order to see the reality of a situation instead of what we want to see. For instance, I love to romanticize little things and believe that everything is going to work out, because love always wins in the end, right? Unfortunately not- there is more to love than hoping for the best; it’s a reciprocated feeling that does not die easily, but I also think it should come easily too. If you have to work at love from the very beginning, I’m not entirely sure you should continue. This is setting yourself up for disappointment and heartbreak. And thus, we explore the fine art of goodbye.
Sometimes you have to go- ok, it’s time to say goodbye; this isn’t working, and I am pulling out my hair trying. It’s emotional but I have found some ways to pull myself through it. I use my imagination a lot to picture the future, I walk and listen to music. During my first big breakup I listened to nothing but Kelly Clarkson and Coldplay. (I also sat under my really tall bed and throughout the day friends would join me under there individually to tell me meaningful stories. We laughed, we cried, we sang along, and they helped me make it through it. Doesn’t that sound like a dramatic story that should be a book or television show?)
Music has been and always will be my savior which is my last part of this highly introspective post about saying goodbye, and the things that help you.
Fine Art of Saying Goodbye Playlist –
1. Both Sides Now– Joni Mitchell, this is the top of my favorites.
2. Oh What a Day– Ingrid Michaelson, so simple but beautiful.
3. Beautiful Day– U2, this always works for me.
4. That’s It, I Quit, I’m Moving On– ADELE cover, love it.
5. Something to Believe In– Aqualung, actually he’s amazing, anything of his will do.
6. Let Go– Frou Frou, a classic really.
8. Try Sleeping with a Broken Heart– Alicia Keys, very emotional but great lyrics. Or, Lesson Learned, very relaxing.
9. How the Day Sounds– Greg Laswell, I like the lyrics.
10. Happier– A Fine Frenzy, love her music, and also Swan Song which is depressing. Or Minnow & the Trout which is meaningful.
11. Smile– Telepopmusik, sounds so nice.
12. Can’t Go Back Now– The Weepies, such a wonderful track.
13.Why Does it Always Rain on Me?– Travis and Feel– Robbie Williams, both good sounds that fit the mood. And also Wish You Were Here– Pink Floyd, these are all recommendations from a very good friend.
14. Gravity– Sara Bareilles, emotional roller-coaster but relevant.
15. Fix You– Coldplay, I love them and this is one of my favorites when I am feeling sad- remember these lines- “when you love someone and it goes to waste, could it be worse?” and “lights will guide you home and ignite you bones, and I will try to fix you…..”
P.S. Officially 52 pounds lost from July last year…. Happy St. Patrick’s Day, and cannot wait till Easter, hello Swedish Fish!