If you could change one thing- an event in your past, a personality trait, your location, your career, or your body, would you? It would be hard to pick just one, which reminds us that change is a tricky thing. But between change and regret, regret takes the cake for being unbelievably and annoyingly tricky. Of course the problem with tricky things is that the more you try to simplify them, the trickier they get.
We have these moments where we wish and we dream and we regret. Yet that’s all they are- moments, and sometimes these moments haunt us, but sometimes these moments remind us why growth is a necessity. See? Tricky. You have to chose whether to look at these little life moments as either a lesson to learn from, or a mistake you wish you could take back. It’s so easy to do the latter because the former is much more complicated and requires a control on emotions that only come with time and experience. I’m getting there.
As of late I’ve learned a lot about life, people, but most importantly myself and what stirs my emotions. You know the saying, and I’m paraphrasing here- I never knew how much it could hurt to lose something I never really had? That is a feeling statement I think brings fear to just about anyone who has wanted something, could see and feel it, and inevitably felt the sorrow of it’s absence when it was removed from their sight and ultimately their lives. But there’s the rub- why did you sit there looking at it and not try to obtain it? Should you have risked your heart or was it better to play it safe? We may never know now that it’s lost. Oh regrets.
I’m a believer in either regretting the really big things, or regretting nothing at all. It’s a newfound attitude- I have been a silent observer and sufferer (which I know many of you can relate to) for far too long and I hope some of you feel the same way. It’s time to live, feel, risk, talk when I want to be silent, and laugh when I want to cry. As for regrets- I’d do it all again. Why spend time regretting when I could be spending time having adventures? (And in a month, eating Swedish Fish again!)
Follow your heart or forever be crippled by the reservations of your mind.