Let’s be serious, if beauty is in the eye of the beholder, there aren’t enough beholders that know how to use their eyes. I’m constantly surprised by how many beautiful lonely people there are walking around. I’m even more surprised by how many of my friends, all stupendously gorgeous with great personalities, are single and are afraid of ending up alone.
Why is this? Have the standards of beauty changed? Well, yes. Aesthetics mean so much more; skinny girls wear skinnier jeans, and even men want to look different. The number of men with eating disorders has escalated over the last decade, because Gerard Butler made women swoon in 300, and Daniel Craig double-oh’d our 7 as Bond. Women aren’t alone in trying to look like the ideal, men do too, whether as consciously I’m not sure.
So take a look at that combo- an incredibly skinny girl with a muscular guy, is that our new ideal of how we should couple? What about us thicker girls? What about our skinny men? Just once I want to see a happy couple, where the guy is medium sized and the woman is voluptuous, and we aren’t talking Scarlet Johansson voluptuous, I’m talking Queen Latifah and Maggie Brown voluptuous, both of whom fall between sizes of 10-14. But I’ll admit, I’m biased here because I, personally, fall between those sizes currently and although these sizes are still smaller than the average American woman, or Australian for that matter, it still feels like too much for some men to come around to. And that’s why I want to see it, I want to have renewed hope that men will be drawn to women that don’t look like Kate Moss or even Beyonce, who you may think is curvy, but really, she has more weight on her shoulders than anywhere else.
Bigger girls are not similar to weebles, we don’t wobble, but some of us sure do fall down in comparison to what is acceptable for men to be attracted to. But maybe I just need to have more faith in men, give them more credit, believe they aren’t as shallow as I think, because in the end, they don’t have it easy either. We all struggle to meet the demands of society; black, white, big, small, tall, and short. We are all made differently, and variety is the spice of life. I, for one, am always up for something spicy…..
P.S. Since this year I am trying to be as honest as possible- that’s me. Size 12. Pretty happy. Making a funny face.