Breaking News: Weebles Wobble, Some Fall Down

Let’s be serious, if beauty is in the eye of the beholder, there aren’t enough beholders that know how to use their eyes.  I’m constantly surprised by how many beautiful lonely people there are walking around. I’m even more surprised by how many of my friends, all stupendously gorgeous with great personalities, are single and are afraid of ending up alone.

Why is this? Have the standards of beauty changed? Well, yes. Aesthetics mean so much more; skinny girls wear skinnier jeans, and even men want to look different. The number of men with eating disorders has escalated over the last decade, because Gerard Butler made women swoon in 300, and Daniel Craig double-oh’d our 7 as Bond. Women aren’t alone in trying to look like the ideal, men do too, whether as consciously I’m not sure.

So take a look at that combo- an incredibly skinny girl with a muscular guy, is that our new ideal of how we should couple? What about us thicker girls? What about our skinny men? Just once I want to see a happy couple, where the guy is medium sized and the woman is voluptuous, and we aren’t talking Scarlet Johansson voluptuous, I’m talking Queen Latifah and Maggie Brown voluptuous, both of whom fall between sizes of 10-14.  But I’ll admit, I’m biased here because I, personally, fall between those sizes currently and although these sizes are still smaller than the average American woman, or Australian for that matter, it still feels like too much for some men to come around to. And that’s why I want to see it, I want to have renewed hope that men will be drawn to women that don’t look like Kate Moss or even Beyonce, who you may think is curvy, but really, she has more weight on her shoulders than anywhere else.

Bigger girls are not similar to weebles, we don’t wobble, but some of us sure do fall down in comparison to what is acceptable for men to be attracted to. But maybe I just need to have more faith in men, give them more credit, believe they aren’t as shallow as I think, because  in the end, they don’t have it easy either. We all struggle to meet the demands of society; black, white, big, small, tall, and short. We are all made differently, and variety is the spice of life. I, for one, am always up for something spicy…..


P.S. Since this year I am trying to be as honest as possible- that’s me. Size 12. Pretty happy. Making a funny face.

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6 Responses to Breaking News: Weebles Wobble, Some Fall Down

  1. Nicole says:

    well said ms dow.. very very good.. you speak the truth!:)

  2. **Jen** says:

    Well said! I think people have their “ideal mate” in their heads and, while still afraid to be alone, are also afraid to settle for anything less than their ideal. And BTW, you look AWESOME!!!! 🙂

  3. Andrea says:

    This is so good! You should have more faith in men. I don’t think they are all seeking that size 4 girl.

  4. Kayce Horgan says:

    You are so right that both sexes have body issue problems, and it doesn’t matter what size the person is. I think that we need to learn to accept that each body is different and that we are not all meant to be the same size. A big voluptuous woman is just as beautiful and sexy as a skinny woman. And truth be told there are a lot of people out there who can accept that about their partner but not about themselves. We keep holding ourselves to this ideal, when others do not. Learn to love yourself as those around you love you. That is what makes a person sexy and beautiful!

    And you look gorgeous, sexy, and curvy in the picture by the way! Wahoo!

  5. Diana says:

    Well said! There is so much to say about how messed up our society’s norms are when it comes to body image for women (and men). I think things are slowly starting to swing in the right direction, but we still have a long way to go.

  6. Darrah says:

    Very Interesting. I was just the other day contemplating how society’s “idea” image has changed over time and that at one time being plump was desirable and a sign of great wealth and status. Glad we are on the same wave length.

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